Self Conscious, Unhealthy & Can't Get Motivated

It's been a few years, months or never that you came closest to exercising. Probably the most of exercising you have done is going to the fast food restaurant , getting your hair/nails done, the lock down or club. You've relied on people telling you that "you don't look that big" or "I like my women with something to grab on. But yet, you feel unhealthy.

You go to the gym and you're lost, intimidated, shame. You might have even gotten all the way in the gym's dressing room and was too embarrassed/insercure and left. Or you made outside the locker room but felt uncomfortable as hell because you've piled article after article of clothing or plastic around your waist, including waist clinchers to cover up and hold in the fat that you are ashamed of showing while attempting to exercise.

You (man or woman) go to a class and you look around and see that everyone else is keeping up and you're feeling like you are about to die but you try to push just as hard) while feeling like you will throw up or you're about to die. There for, after class, you give up to never return.

You feel like crap so on the way home you stop at Popeys, Harolds or McDonald's for a Big Mac because that'll make you feel good. You go home and call that person who you know will tell you that "you don't need to exercise".

Well back in 1980 when I first started exercising, that was ME too. I even have more stress now because of what's expected of me. There's some out there that would love for me to let it go and get out of shape and unhealthy. But I'll tell you ...instead of growing old and unhealthy, I will use the hate of haters to motivate me. Without putting all my business out on Facebook (maybe a book one day), I will say that I've probably gone through some hard times like most, growing up and as a woman. I just won't allow those excuses to keep me from always reaching for a higher ground, even when I have fallen several times. I decided to use exercising and not drugs, alcohol nor self abuse as my way to cope with life struggles.

1. Focusing on your clothes size, waistline, reflection in the mirror, and so on are all short-term motivators that don't adapt with you. Relying on them guarantees any stumbles you have along the way will make you feel horrible about yourself and set you back to square one. Instead, concentrate on the long term benefits, and use the immediate ones as a motivational push. In short, make your fitness plans because you love yourself and want to be the best, most healthy possible you that you can be-whatever size or shape that involves

2. The next thing to remember is that a healthy lifestyle is a skill you work and get better at-not a thing you just get up and start doing one day. If you expect to just hop on a stationary bike, start lifting, or turn your diet upside down without challenges or setbacks, you're setting yourself up for trouble. Approach your health and fitness goals like you would any other skill that you're learning.

If you fell and scraped your knee the first time you attempted to ride a bike, you wouldn't beat yourself up and say "Shoot, something is horribly wrong with me...I just don't have the willpower and discipline required to ride this bike," would you? Nope, you'd realize that you just don't have that skill yet. You just need to get better at it and learn how to control the bike when you hit different terrain...a bumpy road or a patch of grass, for example.

Instead, seek out exercise that rewards you mentally and emotionally as well as physically. Find things you enjoy doing, at any activity level. Don't get caught up in the "all or nothing" mindset, where you think you have to buckle down and do an hour of cardio or strength training every other day for the rest of your life-start slow with something you know you can do, even if it's once a week. It's more important, especially when you're getting started, to focus on what you can do and step up from there.

Finally. ... If you want to change you for the better, first you must be honest and come clean with yourself. You must stay consistent, keep the faith and only listen to positive words YOURSELF and others. When you make a mistake and fall back just keep on moving forward and stop looking in the rear mirror. One last thing, you and only you can make a positive change in your life. because you and no one else can make that change and no pill, surgery etc. WITHOUT EXERCISE is going to work.

Self-compassion is a willingness to look at your own mistakes and shortcomings with kindness and understanding-it's embracing the fact that to err is indeed human.

Keep hope and faith and always believe